“I don’t know what to say….”

Countless people said, “I don’t know what to say….” (Idkwts)

I know you dkwts
I don’t know either. What is there to say?

Idkwts is an acknowledgment that there must be something to say to someone to someone who is mourning someone.

If only there were something more to say, I don’t think there is or if there is Idkwii (I don’t know what it is).

We were all blind lexicographers (a brilliant term I’ve shamelessly appropriated from a comment to an earlier post). I am so grateful to those who acknowledged my experience, I felt seen by the blind lexicographers who said “Idkwts…” I hope I replied with, at least, an appreciative mumble.

It was the mute lexicographers I struggled with, those who didn’t kwts and said nothing.
That hurt.